27th Feb – An update…. I never purchased him any cigarettes. I found out he was bragging to his mates that I was going to be buying them , and that he would have let have other people have them! He told me his friends had let him have some during the holidays, but as he had gone so long without any he might as well stop. I do believe him. One thing he does do is tell me the truth….eventually…as long as I don’t push the question.
Thank you for all your support. Thank you for listening. As all parents, we have to make a judgement call, which sometimes goes against the grain. This was a big one to me, and am really proud that my son has made his own decision.
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The Mini smokes. He’s 16. He buys cigarettes from his “mates”. They exploit him. One “mate” charged £15 for two packets of cigarettes. He gets given cigarettes at the shops, at school, where ever. He lies about smoking, going off for walks. He says he hasn’t smoked for 2-3 weeks, but is obsessing where he will get some from next.
I work in health care. I hate smoking. I see what it does. I advise people against smoking.
I have been thinking – do I get the cigarettes for him, with his money? Will this lose the appeal for him? Will this help stop the lying, and the manipulation from his “mates”. This goes against everything I believe in, but if it keeps he safer? Will he get manipulated in to selling the cigarettes on, or give them away? What about an e-cig- he’s used them before.
There would be boundaries and controls. I would only buy a packet a week. What would you do? What do you think?